Podcasting for Financial Professionals

Shame, conflict, and alternate perspectives about how money should be managed in the home can cause arguments and assumptions about how each other feels and begin to drive a wedge between partners. Intimacy and connection might decrease during times of financial tension if thoughts about conflict, finances, and intimacy are intertwined.

 

Intimacy Life Coach Deise Clements shares how to recognize patterns and separate thoughts for what they are… just thoughts. Creating happiness and abundance in our lives also includes nurturing romantic relationships, even when money is a tense topic. You might be surprised when intimacy and communication in one area resolve issues in another area of the relationship.

 

“This is for me, not against you.” - Deise Clements 

 

There will always be disagreements and conflicts in a relationship, no matter how much love is present. Family finances are a frequent source of friction in marriages. Today we’re diving into family budgeting, money meetings, and how spenders and savers can happily coexist in a healthy relationship.

 

When we want to make a difference in our lives, it all begins with our own point of view, our personal priorities, and how we show up in our relationships.

 

As women, it’s natural to believe it’s our “job” to shoulder all-the-things, but we’re telling you today that you don't have to. Drop that baton, mama! The one-woman relay is over!

 

Many women tend to put their careers on the back burner while raising a young family. This can cause feelings of inferiority when it comes to self-worth, financial empowerment, and self-confidence. The truth is, you still have a voice, an equal share in financial decisions (no matter who’s earning the income), and can contribute to the family’s well-being in ways you might not have considered before.

 

In this episode, listen for:

• Deise’s perspective on money and relationships. Money is simply a tool that can be used to make life more convenient, fun, and peaceful. There’s more than one way to accomplish financial goals, and it’s up to both partners to communicate. 
• It’s okay for one partner to want something, even if the other doesn't find value in those things.
• The invisible conversation we have within ourselves that causes assumptions about our partner. How to identify it and stop it from happening.

 

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

[00:10:25] Money and Motherhood intersect whether we like it or not. How ever-present financial challenges affect your decisions and the rabbit hole of “what ifs”

[00:20:24] Finding the confidence to recognize (or admit) you need help and how outsourcing might be beneficial for your entire household

[00:32:36] During times of conflict, partners are less likely to seek intimacy, which often drives the conflict deeper.

 

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Learn more about how you CAN create the abundant life you've always wanted at www.reachingabundance.com

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Follow Deise at 

www.coachingwithDeise.com

www.instagram.com/coachingwithdeise/

https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithdeise

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMnRTh4YIxdatH3WUldTxZQ

 

This episode is brought to you by YNAB, an excellent budgeting tool for you and your family.

My personal fitness journey has been riddled with a yo-yo cycle of excitement, excuses, goal-setting, and falling off the bandwagon. In pursuit of excuse elimination, I’ve discovered a deeper self-awareness, uncovered patterns, discovered the number one reason we don’t meet our goals, and experimented with lifestyle changes for the entire family.  

What if you could make life less chaotic and end each day feeling more accomplished? 

In general, there’s always a goal you’re working toward. Perhaps it’s fitness, financial, or career-related. How many times have you said you’ll “start on Monday” and then not actually started on Monday? 

Or, maybe you did start on Monday, but fell off after just a few days? Old habits die hard, huh? Personally, I resort to excuses like I’m too busy, tired, etc. and accidentally self-sabotage my way into quitting on the thing I really wanted to do.

In this episode, we’re examining self-sabotaging patterns and exploring how to get rid of the excuses.  I will share my struggles, what I’ve learned about myself, and the thought processes I’ve been evaluating in my own life.  

My newfound awareness of excused-based self-sabotage cycles in my life has allowed me to consciously break them down, question the negativity and excuses that seem to be my default, and refocus on what I need to do to make progress on my path toward abundance. 

 

Self-awareness and pattern interruption is becoming ever-important for me throughout this journey.

In this episode, listen for:

• How and why I committed to one goal and how doing so affected my thought process 
• Ditching the countless commitments that we “should” fulfill and choosing to pursue the most important (to us) ones.
• What are the triggers for self-sabotage? Nothing worthwhile ever comes easily, but perhaps the greatest challenge is moving through your own excuses.

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

[00:09:17] Recognizing the patterns of behavior and the settings under which they occur

[00:16:00] The only way to break the habit of making excuses is to become conscious of your own thought and behavior patterns that contribute to the problem

[00:20:22] When we convince ourselves that something is difficult, it’s usually because we’re avoiding it out of some underlying emotional response, like a fear of failing.

 

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This episode brought to you by Grocery Budget Makeover 

“Of all the sacrifices we women choose to make in life, time shouldn't be one of them.” 

Since we can’t turn back the clock, how can we make the most of the time we have? The act of being present and appreciating the company of those with whom we share time has become more important. 

You can always earn more money, but you cannot regain time. When we look back on our lives, there are times we will never get back, no matter how hard we try, which is why it’s necessary to reflect on our mistakes and adjust our behaviors accordingly.

We need to appreciate the time we have and seize every opportunity that presents itself since the relationships you build in the here and now are irreplaceable.

In this episode, you’ll learn that time management is really just self-management. Time is not something we can control. However, you can control your actions and implement strategies to buy your time back, time-block tasks so you stay on track, and opportunities to set boundaries so you can enjoy work/life “balance.” 

Proper time management will allow you to feel more present within each task and with the people you care about. The precious moments I missed while juggling a corporate job and a growing family made me reevaluate my personal goals, boundaries, and self-management strengths.

I believe we CAN have it all. It may take time and require us to constantly refocus on our goals, but with determination, perseverance, and awareness, a life of abundance is within reach.

In this episode, listen for:

• What is really your “job” (around the house & at work)? Explore where you can hire help, delegate, or quit doing extra tasks yourself.
• The struggle in maintaining a separate work and personal life, and why that approach might not always be successful
• Everyday comes with new challenges. So when you’re feeling overwhelmed, ask yourself “What’s the priority right now?”

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

[00:07:46] Explore what’s really on your to-do list and what you can delegate or outsource.

[00:16:36] Self-management is a practice, to be improved over time. It’s not a one-and-done decision.

[18:16] Why I highly recommend “I Know How She Does It” by Laura Vanderkam and how it changed my perspective on career and household management.

 

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Not being able to cover the bills sucks. It creates fear in even the bravest mamas’ souls. I know because I’ve been there.

If you are having trouble making ends meet, what options do you have?

In this episode, you’ll learn who to call first, what to say, and what to ask for. I share about how my creditors helped us through and beyond rock bottom and offer encouragement and free resources for those who are there now.

Call as soon as possible, before your payment is past due. They have heard it all and will listen to your side of the story before deciding on a course of action to help you overcome your challenges.

If you don’t call, no one can help you. If you do, the possibilities are limitless!

Before making the call, give some thought to the outcome you’d like to see. Consider the following questions: While looking at your tracking/budgeting app, what did you conclude? Is this a temporary issue for this month or does it go beyond? Can you pay a reduced value this month? What is your plan to rectify your financial situation? 

Increasing your income, developing a spending plan you can stick to, setting up an emergency fund, and developing a strategy for paying off your debt are some suggestions that might assist you in getting your financial situation under control as quickly as possible.

In this episode, listen for:

• Your creditors are waiting to hear from you. They want to assist you and maintain you as a customer.
• What you have the ability to ask for while you are in negotiations with your creditors.
• To avoid having to explain your situation twice, create a shorter version to be directed to the correct person.

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

[4:12] If you’re unable to make even the minimum payment and realize there may be a problem with your payment, call immediately. 

[8:11] Before you get on the phone with creditors, make sure you have access to your most recent account statement and related details.

[12:33] Which questions your creditors might ask in order to get a better understanding of your situation to help bring your account current.

 

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Learn more about how you CAN create the abundant life you've always wanted at www.reachingabundance.com

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Articles Mentioned 

https://reachingabundance.com/get-debt-free-faster-by-using-found-money/

https://reachingabundance.com/how-to-budget-while-strategically-paying-down-debt/

https://reachingabundance.com/powerful-secrets-to-a-successful-financial-journey-step-2-emergency-fund/

https://reachingabundance.com/how-to-create-your-own-custom-debt-free-strategy/

I know I’m not the only one annoyed by the recent uptick in spammy emails and those awful robocalls. Add the never-ending phone and app notifications and junk mail to the mix, and it’s easy to understand why we all feel overwhelmed most days.

Calls, bings, beeps, and the feeling that something is happening online without us is constantly interrupting our train of thought, our family time, our day, and our attention. This episode walks you through the steps to reduce the mental and paper clutter, distractions, and unneeded input we receive daily to help you be a more present, peaceful woman.

Listen to find out how to ditch robocalls, get your name and address removed from national brokers’ mailing lists, and opt out of those annoying financial and insurance advertisements, sales calls, and spammy emails. You don’t have to live with the distractions and interruptions any longer!

 

Where did all these interruptions come from? 

1. Robocalls, scammers and random numbers-Over 31 billion automated phone calls were reported in 2017. What if I told you that you could stop receiving those calls altogether?
2. Physical Mail -Reduce the quantity of advertisements and unwanted mail that arrives at your home address so you'll have to spend less time sorting through it. Remove your address from the spam database at any time.
3. Email -Opt out of emails by clicking the "Unsubscribe" link below on any messages you find yourself uninterested in. They probably won't even notice you unsubscribed!

If you're ready to simplify your life and focus more on the here and now. The journey toward presence might be tedious and frustrating, but when you're done decluttering your digital life, you will experience a sense of freedom.

 

In this episode, listen for:

• Establishing rules in order to reduce or eliminate disruptions
• The quantity of unwanted junk mail we throw away every day contributes unnecessarily to landfill congestion.
• Eliminating any open accounts that you no longer utilize. Spam calls and letters will stop

 

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

[6:46] Although we are all connected, as a society, we are the loneliest we have ever been

 

[13:53] Eliminating digital distractions by deleting apps you don't need and unfollowing accounts

 

[19:05] Eliminating paper coupons and switching to digital ones

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Learn more about how you CAN create the abundant life you've always wanted at www.reachingabundance.com

All links mentioned in this episode are provided with the article. https://reachingabundance.com/how-to-increase-presence-by-digitally-decluttering

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We tend to think that ‘this time’ is the worst time.

The necessity of maintaining or even enhancing our mental well-being is paramount during difficult circumstances. Even when the news fills your head with gloom and doom, it is easy to lapse into unhealthy habits, both emotionally and physically, when you surround yourself with negativity. Sometimes the news might get you down, but there are easy actions you can do to keep your energy high, no matter what is happening in the world.

The Covid “lockdown” and being stuck at home have affected everyone. While some people sought guidance on how to stay strong or positive during social distancing, the abrupt change in routine and separation from others can cause emotional distress in anyone.

Connecting online is a great temporary solution, but it’s not the same.

I’ll share with you some easy strategies to improve your mental well-being at home. As moms, our mental well-being often takes a back seat. We’re too often preoccupied with making sure everyone else in the family has the support they need that our own needs get pushed aside. 

To improve your mental well-being, pay attention to these tips as you listen

1. Survival - If you have the basics covered, allow yourself to smile about that. Journal your thoughts and experiences so that you may revisit them later.
2. Happiness - What makes you happy and content? Do your best to avoid anything that will affect you negatively later.
3. Control - Life is full of modest pleasures that we can manage, allowing us to feel validated. Ask yourself what you can do today to improve the way you feel tomorrow.
4. Personal Growth/Development - Find a topic of interest to you and dive in.
5. Luxuries- Recognize what you already have.  

In this episode, listen for:

• Remember, even if we are experiencing difficult circumstances, they are temporary
• You can exercise control at any time, in small ways, throughout your life.
• A key aspect of personal growth is to assume everything is adjustable, alterable, and negotiable. What can you do to make yourself happier?

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

[6:06] Your thoughts and emotions aren’t necessarily yours. By whom or what are you being influenced?

[11:52] Prioritize your tasks and divide that long to-do list into manageable chunks for each day 

[13:51] Whatever you do, make an effort to surround yourself with people, activities, and habits that will make you joy

If this episode hit home for you, share it with a friend. Simply copy & paste this link: https://link.chtbl.com/abundance

Learn more about how you CAN create the abundant life you've always wanted at www.reachingabundance.com

 Follow me at www.instagram.com/reachingabundance

 

Article mentioned 

https://reachingabundance.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-how-debt-affected-my-life/

 

Courses Mentioned 

Earn More Writing: https://earnmorewriting.com/p/earn-more-writing/?affcode=70083_phq0pvmn

Grocery Budget Makeover https://www.grocerybudgetmakeover.com/join/?orid=246303&opid=41

Blogging Workshop

https://order.goldcityventures.com/blogging-workshop/?affiliate=eldervirginia

 

Books 

Tiny Buddhas Journal: https://amzn.to/3drnH3H

Instant Happy Journal: https://amzn.to/3zVhapz

The Awakened Family: https://amzn.to/3QH80Uk

Financial Freedom: https://amzn.to/3zWu32v

 

The Coronavirus Pandemic has suddenly shut down schools & restaurants, canceled playdates & birthday parties, and left us trying to homeschool our kids. On top of that, we adults are attempting to work from home while managing the family dynamic. 

Here are links to free homeschool resources, an article about how to talk to your kids about Covid19, a link to 30 meals with 5 or less ingredients, and more to help mamas cope with the quarantine recommendations and manage the family with an abundant mindset through it all. 

www.reachingabundance.com

 

REAL self-care isn't about false eyelashes, manicures, bubble baths, or lavish treats although that's what seems to get attention on social media. 

But what's REALLY self-care? And how can we, as mothers, set a positive example for our children to love themselves?

“Self-care is calming the nervous system, not just meaningless activities.” - Lavinia at Quantum Body Wellness

I’ve been thinking a lot about making time for self-care in our hectic schedules. No, I don’t mean going out and getting my nails or hair done; rather, I’m referring to self-care that actually enhances our quality of life and serves as a constant reminder of the importance of the contribution each of us makes to the world.

Self-care is often thrown around loosely when someone is pampering themselves, simply for the envious attention they’ll get from their followers, but that they are stretching the budget to afford. 

Society or the patriarchy, however you want to spin it, has trained us to believe that self-care is embedded in looking and feeling beautiful. Facials, manicures, pedicures, and highlights are touted as self-care all over social media. 

But what happens when that type of “self-care” simply perpetuates being over budget and feeling like our natural nails/hair/skin are something to be improved? Those fresh tips might feel fancy for a week and garner compliments, but what happens when that feeling fades? You’re still stuck with the credit card bill.

It all comes down to what image you’re trying to uphold or prove and why. 

What lie are you perpetuating through those actions in order to fill the void and maintain the image? These are the questions you need to ask yourself when you’re in an attempt to have real self-care. 

Have you ever felt guilty about taking a day for self-care? Because if you feel bad afterward, it’s not real self-care.

True self-care and abundance are aligned - they’re both of your own definition and when you practice self-care that’s true to you. Stay tuned to find out what self-care means to me and how this level of abundance can trickle down to your family. 

Self-care is about enhancing your own well-being and the well-being of others you care about for the rest of your life. Guilt-free self-care includes: saving for retirement, working out, meal planning, getting a massage, cleaning the house, hanging out with friends, practicing yoga, talking to a therapist, and even hiring help. You’re probably wondering how on earth these activities qualify as self-care. Using any of these techniques can help you relax and focus your mind.

In this episode, listen for:

• The coping mechanisms we may use for self-care and avoid facing our true feelings
• My journey through self-care and how it has affected myself and my family
• A decluttered space equals a clearer mind

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

[12:51] If it's something that will result in any measure of guilt, it's not true self-care

[22:51] Dropping the excuse that we don't have the time

[32:08] Inadvertently, we project our innermost feelings and thoughts onto others

 

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Learn more about how you CAN create the abundant life you've always wanted at www.reachingabundance.com

 

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Quantum Body Wellness- https://ayurvedafusionmassage.com/

This episode is brought to you by erincondren.com - Daily planners designed with mom life in mind.

A large part of teaching your children about money is understanding their brain development by age and learning what concepts they can comprehend at that stage. Inside this episode, I break down cognitive development by age group and discuss what you can teach them based on their ability. 

Want to make sure you set your kid on the path to managing their money well? This is the episode you’ve been waiting for! I share educational activities you can try, when to establish chores, when to open a bank account, how to teach them when to spend and when to save, and even when to introduce investing.

If you’re wondering when to start teaching your child about money, the answer is now. In the absence of direct instruction from us parents, our children will form their own opinions and gather information on their own.  Enjoy conversing with your kiddo, ask them questions, and, most importantly, make money an openly discussed topic in your household.

If you’re hesitant and wondering how even to begin teaching your kids about money, take a step back and think about what you wish you were taught. By teaching our children about money today, we’re making a beneficial impact on their future. 

Even if you fear awkwardness, are afraid you’ll “do it wrong,” or are unsure where to start, it’s better to start talking about money management now, when the risk is with the value of a toy, rather than later when the value is in the amount of monthly rent.

 

Money is an essential part of life. So just as much as we harp on brushing teeth properly, we should also be sharing financial fundamentals and including pricing comparisons, risk evaluations, and budgeting in regular conversations.

Being a positive role model and sharing open discussions about how money works are the two most important things you can do for your children’s financial future. Even when you make financial mistakes or are embarrassed about choices with money, having an open conversation with kids about those mistakes and your feelings can have a positive effect on their perspective of how money works, can be handled, and as a tool toward building wealth.

 

An Outline of Your Child’s Brain Development:

Birth-2 Years Old: Sensorimotor Stage- Your baby learns about the world around them and develops an understanding through their senses. 

3-7 Years Old: Pre-Operational Stage - Your child’s short- and long-term memory, imagination, ideas, and understanding of symbolic representation are all growing throughout these early preschool to early elementary years.

7-11 Years Old - Understanding of how the world works and gaining a better grasp on cause and effect occur during this time in a child’s life.

Beyond 11 Years Old - During these years, the discussions might be more in-depth, and can provide opportunities for kids to undertake things independently.

 

In this episode, listen for:

• 3-year-old brain structure and neuronal connections throughout brain development
• Our children’s brain growth is encouraged by the positive behavior we exhibit and the interactions we have with them
• Debit card system you can create with your child which can teach them value, savings and how to handle cash

 

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

[00:04:55] It’s possible for toddlers as early as three to grasp basic money concepts. At age seven, children begin to establish their money mindset.

[00:07:14] A person’s ability to change and grow as a result of a single event is referred to as neuroplasticity.

[00:17:03] Delayed gratification and the 3 steps to teach your children and help them understand what it means 

 

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Learn more about how you CAN create the abundant life you've always wanted at www.reachingabundance.com

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FREE printable Financial Goal Coloring Sheet

Kids Money Books List 

Kids Debit Card system: www.famzoo.com

 

I guarantee you can recall one instance of terrible financial advice you received in the past. Whether it was an innocent statement from a friend or a long talk with a well-meaning relative over a family meal. 

Unfortunately, it’s these well-meaning pieces of financial advice that can actually inhibit our financial progress.

It’s time for you to take a step back and choose the financial advice nuggets you want to keep and ditch those that make you feel restricted, bad about yourself, or guilty in any way.

It’s very “normal” to struggle with finances - financial conversations, knowing what to do first, and even knowing HOW to do some things with our money just simply wasn’t shared with us when we were young. 

A common misconception is that as we get older and our income rises, we’ll be able to pay off any debt we accumulated in our early adulthood. The unfortunate truth is that those accustomed to living beyond their means will always live beyond their means, whether they make $50,000 or $500,000 per year.

Not only were we not taught how to manage money well in school, but the ever-circling bad financial advice is also working against us too! It might stem from a great marketing ploy, persuasive economic report, or a well-meaning relative simply because it worked for them, but it might not work for you and your situation. 

In this episode, I'm going to share some of the poor financial advice I received in the past and how I came to this road of self-discovery to find what works best for my family and me. If you've been given terrible money advice, this episode will not only help you become aware of it, but it will also help you get the courage to dismiss it totally.

Establish Credit As Early As Possible - As a teenager, I was told that I should get a credit card as soon as possible in order to establish credit. Unfortunately, since I wasn’t taught to manage the credit or understand the statement, that led me toward a game of financial roulette each month. 

Your Credit Score is Important- The great myth here is you have to “work” on your score. Of course, when you make a big purchase, such as buying a home, you need a good standing score, but you don't need a perfect score to survive. With solid financial habits in tow, your credit score will naturally improve. 

Renting is a Waste, Homership is Key- It was engrained in my brain that owning a home is better than renting. Without a more in-depth explanation or financial strategy, this advice has first-time homebuyers overcommitting themselves, putting an undue burden on their career and potential income. 

If you can afford the payment, you can afford the thing - Our desires and budgets are focused month-to-month, and this short-term vision leads to years of creditor pressure and our incomes being siphoned away by payments. 

Just Save $1,000- For many people, this is a key factor in moving toward financial abundance and away from credit reliance. Establishing a $1K emergency fund isn’t about just saving $1K. Ideally, you start saving, it becomes a habit, and then you continue to make progress. 

Cut Up Your Credit Cards to Get Out of Debt - Credit is a tool, and there are several advantages to having credit cards. Close any you aren't using or that you don’t like. Credit only becomes a problem when you’re consistently spending beyond your means.

In this episode, listen for:

• Should you use a credit card if you don’t have the cash?
• Breaking the cycle of credit dependency
• What is your priority? If it’s investing, can you own a home and still remain focused on the goal?

In this episode, you’ll also hear:

[00:16:27] Using an example to help you better comprehend how you will pay off your credit card

[00:21:35] Practice positive controlled reasonable financial behavior 

[00:26:23] You don't need equity unless you want to utilize it, just like you don't need credit.

 

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Learn more about how you CAN create the abundant life you've always wanted at www.reachingabundance.com

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This episode brought to you by famzoo.com - creating healthy spending habits for your children